While thinking about starting therapy is in itself a brave first step, let’s be honest, it’s not an easy choice to choose the “right” professional. As someone who has always been “proud” about not being impulsive, I understand how difficult it must be to choose the right professional to explore parts of yourself you’ve hidden away so carefully. So let’s talk about where we can potentially begin.
While qualifications matter, the fit matters even more
Don’t get me wrong, credentials absolutely matter in today’s world where quacks freely call themselves Counsellors and Psychologists. You need someone who is ethical, trained, and experienced. But credentials alone don’t make the relationship. The professional sitting across from you physically or virtually, who sees you for who you are, who hears you not just through your words but through your body language, and who just gets you: that’s what makes the relationship. Research supports this too; Steindl et al. (2023) found that the therapeutic relationship significantly influences therapeutic outcomes. Trust your gut. It rarely betrays you.
What am I looking for?
While searching for a therapist, it’s a good idea to first understand why you’re accessing support right now and what you’re hoping to get from the experience. Some people prefer someone direct and straightforward, who doesn’t beat around the bush. Others prefer someone more passive, who allows them to lead the conversation. It’s also worth reflecting on whether you’re looking for practical coping strategies or a more reflective, safe space to explore your thoughts and feelings. Some individuals also have preferences around age, gender, culture, or therapeutic modality, and that is completely valid. There are no right or wrong preferences. Just the ones that are right for you.
Some green flags in professionals
A therapist who is open about their qualifications, approach, and therapeutic style is a major green flag. When you get on that introductory call or even your first session, pay attention to how they respond to your questions and concerns. An open, respectful, and non-judgmental communication style that prioritises your safety and comfort goes a long way in building the therapeutic relationship. You’ll know when there’s an actual human being on the other side and not a robot. And if a therapist apologises and owns up to their mistakes? You’ve got a green forest right there.
Some red flags to be aware of
Be cautious of anyone who makes grand promises, dismisses your concerns, or makes you feel like you have no say in the process. Counselling is a collaboration – you should always feel like an active participant, not a passive recipient. This time and space is yours alone. It’s also important to remember that this is a professional therapeutic relationship. If you ever sense that your therapist is acting inappropriately; flirting, sending gifts, attempting to become friends or something more, you have every right to report them.
Your instincts matter
After your first consultation, sit with how you felt. Did you feel safe? Understood? Even a little hopeful? Those feelings are meaningful data. Just as most of us shop around to find the perfect pair of jeans that actually fit, it’s okay and encouraged to explore your options before committing to a therapist. And through it all, remember: your gut is always guiding you.
At Raaiter Wellness, this practice is built on a simple belief: everyone deserves a space where they feel genuinely understood.
Healing becomes possible when you feel seen, heard, and safe enough to explore your experiences without judgment.
If you are currently searching for the right support, I hope this gives you the confidence to trust yourself in the process.
And if you would like to explore whether we might be a good fit, I would be glad to hear from you.
Ready to take the next step? Reach out – no pressure, just a conversation.
Reference
Steindl, S. R., et al. (2023). The therapeutic relationship and its role in therapeutic outcomes. Journal of Clinical Psychology.
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/jclp.23519